How do you remodel, refresh, or replace a dream you held if it’s no longer current for you?
A colleague and I noticed this was the case with several small business owners we worked with in a mentoring program we created.
You also see this with college students choosing majors, and then people who suddenly face a career change, whether it is forced or chosen.
You see this with companies and teams, too, when circumstances have changed and they may not have kept the dream alive as new people joined the company. Or maybe customers have moved on, making a once-successful company and products now an industry also-ran.
It may take a while, but you’ll discover what you really want to do and achieve if you’re open to whatever you discover, in the process.
Second, start paying more attention to the things you really like, and like to do.
– What do you love to do?
This can give you a general direction to look toward for your dream. It may or may not lead to an improved team goal or career path, but it can give you clues about where to look for more information.
At a minimum, paying attention to what you love to do, and then adding more of that to your life can make your present circumstances more satisfying.
If you’re part of a team that is trying to refresh its dream, notice the times when, as a group, you are most satisfied and most successful working together.
– What achievements are you proudest of?
This can give you clues about what makes you happiest. It can also help you understand what it is about those achievements that makes them so satisfying to you.
If you’re part of a team, pay attention to what collective achievements members of the team are proudest of. That gives you an idea of what motivates different members of the team, and what they might be driven to try to achieve again, together.
– Who do you admire?
If you admire people of great courage, perhaps you secretly wish you had more reasons and opportunities to exercise your own courage.
If you admire great artists, authors or musicians, perhaps you’re wish you had outlets for performing, expressing, or developing your artistic talents in other ways.
Perhaps athletes, inventors, great world leaders or Nobel Prize-winning scientists are those you admire most.
Whoever these people are, and whatever they have done, looking at who you admire can give you clues about what you long to do more of, yourself.
If you’re looking at this as a team, it can tell you more about what you’re driven to achieve, collectively, and what motivates you to do so.
There are other tools and exercises you can use to discover the dream that is real for you now. This just gives you a few ideas for how to start down that path.
If you find that you’re driving toward a dream or goal that just doesn’t move you, have the courage to take a step back.
You will find that it can ultimately help you leap far ahead…and on a truer path.
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