Let’s say you need to make big changes in your work or your life.
You clearly see the shining time in the distance when all is well:
- All problems are solved
- All bad habits have been dropped
- All stress has been eased, all duress is a long-ago memory
Getting there will be easy, right? Maybe…and maybe not.
Check your history for a quick reality test. How have you normally handled the process of reaching big goals in the past?
Did you often get overwhelmed – however that happens – do you typically work in a persistent way, producing a steady flow of results all the way to reaching that big goal?
Whichever path you take, there’s a process involved in becoming overwhelmed, or staying focused and getting things done. Let’s look at both:
How to get overwhelmed
Here are some of the common steps that people experience in the process of becoming overwhelmed:
Set no priorities, enforce no boundaries
If you have no target, no one can say you missed it, right?
And if you have no boundaries, the answer to every request, every decision is “yes.” In this way, you’re never the “bad guy,” the person who says “no” – UNTIL you can’t come through with all you promised.
Find and feed an addiction to drama
Perhaps you like the adrenalin rush that comes from living on the edge. Or maybe you like being rescued when you’ve committed to more than you can handle and everything is falling apart.
On the other hand, maybe you’re the person who’s the rescuer for someone else, and you readily drop everything to jump right in and pull someone else out of the fire. Rescues are, at times, essential, of course.
But if rescue is a habit – as well-intentioned as it may be – regularly being pulled out of the ringer, preventing a zinger at the last minute can have precisely the opposite effect from what you expect. Rescuing, or being rescued, as a routine, may reinforce bad habits that have gone so far that they have become, well, a handicap.
Focus on the future to the exclusion of the day-to-day details of victory
Maybe you believe that only big, dramatic achievement deserves attention and accolades.
Or maybe the future looks SO big, SO bright, so compelling that you’re frankly bored by the day-to-day work that stands between where you are and where you’re going.
And so? You may be one of the people who lets that boring flow build up until it becomes far less boring…it becomes absolutely terrifying.
Downplay the consequences of overwhelm
Missed opportunities are one consequence of overwhelm. You may also miss the signs of a great short-cut to your goal, or the quiet but significant little warnings that a problem is ahead.
In addition, the costs of failure go up the longer you delay getting the work done, or miss the signs of opportunity to prevent problems before they occur. If, for example, you miss the signs of a health problem when it’s small, you could face a much bigger, more serious, more expensive and far less solvable problem down the road.
How to get focused and develop a habit of completion
Here are some of the common steps in the process of getting focused and persistently producing good results:
Set your sights a little lower
Turn the bright stage lights down a bit.
Turn off the camera. Shut down the expectation that you need something dramatic to write on your blog or add to your Facebook account today.
Focus your attention on the next step you need to take. Concentrate on doing that well, and getting it done before big problems and big piles build up.
Break the big goal down into little actions
Every big milestone is made up of many little ones.
A marathon is made up of many one-mile runs, along with many individual training runs before that. A building is made up of many individual components, planned, ordered, and assembled in a clear series of actions and events.
Applaud the small achievements
Even if it’s just you providing the applause, celebrate completion of each milestone.
To do that, pause to fully notice the achievement and then reward it in some small way.
So often, small but very significant accomplishments slip by quietly, unnoticed, because your attention has already moved on to what you haven’t done yet.
Simplify your to-do list
Expect less. Do more. Give yourself the chance to enjoy what you do, not just to plow through it.
One way to do this: take one thing off your to-do list.
You’ll be surprised at the energy and ease that this one action releases. It opens up time and energy because it forces you to make choices, to own and act on your real priorities.
Drop the habit of pursing perfection
Build the habit of pursing completion.
Go for the experience of flow. Go for the “zone.” Enjoy the experience of doing the work and getting it done, for its own merits, not just the benefits it will produce when you’re done.
Measure and manage progress
Progress unnoticed, unappreciated is progress that won’t grow as fast as it can.
Find something that you can track – something significant that you measure or count – that will motivate you to make and see steady progress through the peaks and valleys that precede any major achievement.